Define Clear Roles in your Teen Business
How many times have we asked our teen to do something just to turn around and do it ourselves? Late night projects? Lunches they forgot at home? Cleaning their room? The list is endless. I too am guilty of it. The truth is that we are fixing the immediate problem, but creating a whole new one. By taking on their responsibilities we are setting them up for failure long term. We have to allow them to succeed or fail while they are still under our protection. Those life lessons are critical to their development. The same holds true in business. If we define clear roles and expect them to complete their tasks we can avoid frustration and improve communication.
To Succeed in Business with your Teen you MUST set CLEAR Goals
Communication is the key to succeeding in business with your teen. Map out CLEAR responsibilities for each of you to do. Define CLEAR roles. Make sure tasks are appropriate for their age and ability. Don’t just give them menial tasks. They get bored just like we do. Talk about tasks that need to be done. Be clear on exactly what is expected. Talk about new tasks. Train them on how to complete each task. Learn new tasks together. Use the combined learning experience as bonding time. Let your teen know they can ask questions if they are unsure how to complete a task. Be willing to adjust tasks weekly if you both feel it’s appropriate. As your teen grows in the business, give them more responsibility. They have to be challenged to grow.
Define Clear DEADLINES
Agree to tasks assignments. Get their input on the division of responsibility. Remember they are not just your child, they are your business partner. Hold a weekly business meeting with your teen and make task assignment a regular item on the agenda. Read more about weekly business meetings Host a successful Business Meeting with your Teen. Make sure your teen has a list somewhere they can refer to. I suggest they use a notebook, calendar or planner to write tasks down every week.
Planners are a GREAT organizational tool to introduce to your teen. That is a topic for another day, but consider getting them an inexpensive planner for the business or print a simple calendar page. Teens add tasks and note deadlines on it. This is a tangible reminder. At the end of the week they can have the satisfaction of marking tasks off as they are completed. This may seem like a small thing, but little successes often make big differences.
Let them FAIL or succeed
Moms want our kids to do things our way and on our time. My daughter got tired of me NAGGING her all the time. The truth is I wasn’t helping the situation. I was frustrating her and getting myself worked up. We finally agreed that once tasks were assigned, I would NOT get involved or second guess her. She was FULLY responsible. She didn’t do things the way I would have done necessarily, but most of the time she completed them on time and well. You will find they will succeed more than they fail if you believe in them and show them by allowing them to take the lead in those tasks.
Moms… Give your teen CLEAR responsibilities, a DEADLINE and REWARD them for their efforts. If they don’t complete tasks, they lose the reward. Don’t NAG. Don’t do it FOR them. Don’t remind them. Let them do it in their time and their way. If they don’t step up to the plate, they suffer the consequences of missing the reward. Don’t punish them for not completely tasks on time. These aren’t chores. Instead, withhold rewards just like a “REAL” job would. This is a REAL job. Make the rewards desirable enough she/he will WANT to do things well and on time. Give them the chance to learn and show responsibility. THEN Review how they did at your weekly business meetings… However, remember to let them review how you did too. That’s what partners do.